Looking for Positive People in Norfolk: An Entrepreneur’s Search for Community (Hampton Roads)

For the past season of my life, I’ve been more isolated than I want to admit.

At first, it was practical. We didn’t have a car. Then we finally got one—and I jumped straight into rideshare and delivery driving. If you’ve ever done that kind of work, you know how it goes: long hours, lots of miles, and you’re “around people” all day… but not really with people.

And here’s the part that hits me the most: we’ve visited a lot of churches since moving here, and we still haven’t made real friends yet.

I’m a Christian, so I have to be honest—that feels wrong. I’m not saying there aren’t good churches or good people (I know there are). I’m saying I’ve wrestled with “church culture” for a long time, and it’s hard when the one place that’s supposed to feel like family… doesn’t.

But I also refuse to dwell there.

Because I know this is true: there are a lot of good people in the world. I just have to find them.

The logo reminded me who we really are

The other day I looked at my logo and it hit me: we’re a family business.

This is supposed to be about love, cooperation, and the power of family, friends, and community.

And that’s where it gets complicated.

On one side of the coin, I don’t trust people easily.

On the other side of the coin, I genuinely love people—and I know there are great people out there. Especially people who need help, because that’s what I do: I help people. I build. I encourage. I share what I’ve learned. I want other people to win.

My biggest thing right now is simple:

I want more positive people in my life.

Not “perfect” people. Not “never had problems” people. Just people with good energy, good intentions, and the kind of mindset that makes you leave a conversation feeling stronger than when you came in.

God answered that prayer… at Wawa

I’ve been praying for more positive people in my life.

And the other day, God did something that made me laugh—in the best way.

I met a man at Wawa of all places.

Wawa is one of my favorite spots. Somehow we ended up talking near the coffee area. I don’t even remember exactly how it started—maybe he held the door, maybe we were both reaching for coffee—but we started talking like we’d known each other.

And the crazy part?

He told me he hasn’t made many friends since moving here five years ago.

Then he says he’s a businessman too.

What are the odds?

I’m “blowing that one up,” because business is my thing. I can talk business all day. I’ve built websites around the things I love:

• A business site because I love entrepreneurship, marketing, and building systems.
• A health and wellness site because I care about staying in shape, improving health, and helping people through real-life challenges (including things people don’t always feel comfortable talking about).
• A beauty site because I’ve enjoyed that industry for years—and honestly, it’s fun. I love seeing women in their element. And yes… I’ve even learned to appreciate getting told to “take a hike” every now and then. (Growth is growth, right?)

But one thing is missing from my website collection.

And it’s muy importante…

Coffee, baby.

If you love something, you should probably build something around it. That’s my rule. So coffee is next—because coffee isn’t just a drink. It’s a moment. It’s comfort. It’s conversation. It’s community.

And apparently, it’s also where God introduces you to new people.

Is isolation a big thing right now?

I think so. Big time.

A lot of people are feeling disconnected—even if they’re busy, even if they’re surrounded by people, even if they’re “doing all the right things.”

Some folks don’t feel valued.
Some folks don’t feel loved.
Some folks feel like they’re carrying life by themselves.

And that affects everything—your mood, your confidence, your discipline, your health… even your income.

Because here’s the truth that doesn’t get said enough:

Success isn’t just about hustle. It’s about support.

Healthy relationships can keep you steady when motivation drops.
They can pull you out of your head when your thoughts get loud.
They can introduce you to opportunities you’ll never meet on your own.
They can remind you who you are when life tries to reduce you to a paycheck.

What I’m doing next (small moves, real results)

I’m not trying to “fix” my social life overnight. I’m trying to build it the same way you build anything that lasts:

Consistency + intentionality.

Here are a few moves I’m making:

1. Coffee invitations (low pressure, high value).
   If I meet someone cool, I’m going to say: “Want to grab coffee sometime this week?” Simple.
2. Show up somewhere repeatedly.
   One of the best ways to make friends as an adult is repetition. Same place, same time, same energy.
3. Lead with service (not impressing).
   Instead of “How can this person help me?” I’m trying “How can I encourage them?” That attracts the right people.
4. Reconnect with people I already know.
   I’m also reaching back out to a friend from high school. We chatted on Facebook a few months ago, but I was so busy. The wild part is her son is the same age as mine. That kind of connection matters.

And I’m giving myself permission to do this with boundaries.

You can be open-hearted and wise.
You can love people and move slow.
You can be friendly and still protect your peace.

If you’re in Norfolk / Hampton Roads…

If you’re local to the Norfolk / Hampton Roads (757) area and you’re also looking for positive people—especially if you’re building something (business, content, a new chapter of life)—I’m here for that.

No weird vibes. No fake “networking.” Just real people trying to grow, help, and enjoy life a little more.

So let me ask you…

How do you meet people these days?
Are you more to yourself lately?
Do you have positive friends around you?
Would you like to meet more people?

Drop a comment and tell me where you’re at. If you’re in Hampton Roads, say that too. You never know who’s reading this who might be looking for the same thing.